Tag: Growth
Mystic Musings: How Can You Get Ready Before You’re Ready?
How Can You Get Ready Before You’re Ready? ©2018 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC
There some huge energetic changes in store for 2019. How can you get ready for them when you’re still in 2018?
I’m back in the Northwest for a month before returning to Queens, NY to continue helping my brother recover from a stroke.
It’s a huge growth space.
I’m still decompressing from the intense physical and emotional work I’ve been doing. And yet there are things I need to set in place while I’m here, so that I can continue with my business into the next year.
It may seem counter-intuitive to schedule activities before you feel ready, and yet that’s exactly how you get yourself ready as well.
Think of it as you as Consciousness taking care of your future self.
This can be in tiny ways. When I left my brother’s in New York, I stuffed my purse full of Earl Grey tea bags, only to discover I’d left myself a nearly full box from my previous visit.
It can be in major ways as well. I had a conversation recently with a woman who was struggling with maintaining her career while caring for two elderly parents. She had no children herself and her career not only supported herself, but ensured her retirement (caring for her future self).
In my present frame of mind, I just want to spend the next four weeks in bed drinking earl grey tea and looking at Facebook. And yet as I write that, I feel a stirring of discontent.
Because it’s only my body-personality that wants to stay in bed, that can’t imagine interacting with people because it can’t imagine beyond this present moment.
My mind is a sneaky bugger that also wants to convince me to take no action because, as Consciousness, navigating reality is done improvisationally. Stay in bed, that’s responding to the present moment, it says.
So there’s some truth to not preplanning because it could just be your mind wanting to control your future.
How to stay open to possibilities, and yet also set yourself in motion for them to happen.
This reality is full of polarities. That’s what makes it so delicious.
Consciousness is creating this reality for the joy of having physical experiences. That is all. It doesn’t matter to Consciousness whether those experiences feel good or bad, are long or short in duration. It’s all about the experience. And Consciousness’ impulse is to create, to express itself in form.
When we line up with ourselves as Consciousness, we are in agreement with whatever is happening in the moment. When we make choices and take actions as Consciousness, then the resulting experiences feel fun or pleasant or at the very least “right”.
So as you look towards 2019, you can put things on your calendar, and set things in motion, that you as your 2018 self may not feel ready for. But that you as infinite Consciousness have already embraced.
Try this and see what unfolds for you!
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Mystic Musings: Leaning Into Enormous Growth
Leaning In To Enormous Growth ©2018 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC
It’s been an emotional week, in a way that I’ve not been familiar with in a long time. Last Saturday I went to the Bronx and got stuck talking with a crazy lady (nice, but crazy) for 90 minutes. Normally I would have handled this with humor and grace. That day, I felt like running screaming from the room. Then I went to the Whole Foods in Harlem (it seems to be my mission to visit every Whole Foods in New York City) and the population density just tipped me over. I’m not used to not enjoying myself to this extent.
Wow, I said to myself. I’m in a huge growth space.
Six months ago at a Meetup I was leading in Tacoma, we were playing with walking through doors to parallel universes, and I hit this kind of resistance as I stepped through one. I realized I was initiating something momentous. I recall leaning into it and wondering what shift was set in motion at the time.
Voilà.
Of course, this began in August but whatever is going on this week is moving it to a whole new level.
Sunday, my sister-in-law’s 70 year old brother came from Taiwan to help. He’s here until February. All I knew about him was that he became a nurse’s aide when he retired from the army. So we’ve been very excited about his arrival, because he can take over a lot of the physical therapy.
What’s struck me at first is his very kind face. And he’s far more gentle with my brother than I am.
In fact, all of my sister-in-law’s friends and family that have come so far have been extraordinarily kind and gentle. You can tell they genuinely love my brother.
But this guy has been driving me crazy in ways I would normally be able to rise above. There’s a 13 hour time difference between here and Taipei. That’s a lotta days of jet lag. I feel I’ve been enormously rude and petty. But we’ve weathered it so far and yesterday I felt like I’ve broken through some of my stuff. I mean, he cooked my organic onion for his dinner and I didn’t feel ballistic. That’s progress.
There’s a lot of reorganization going on here. Even as I lose physical space, sharing the room with him, I’m gaining time. Now all I have to do is phone calls and paperwork. And I can leave the apartment during the day. Freedom.
My business is shifting, too. I have a two week pause with clients. I feel something else is emerging and I don’t know what it is. I just need to lean into it, and see what I step through to.
Astrologically, this is my natal Jupiter return and the last time this happened was when my work and my world shifted from Newtonian Physics to Quantum Physics. That’s all. I can’t imagine what this year will bring.
But it’s such a time of breaking down, loss of old creations, stepping into new and unfamiliar things every day.
This is happening in different ways to everyone. How are you experiencing it?
What are you losing? What are you gaining?
This week ended with the delivery of a hemi cane. It will help my brother, who’s partially paralyzed on the right side of his body, get out of his wheelchair and walk again. This is a significant step towards independence for him.
And, it snowed.
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Mystic Musings: When Growth Gets Messy
When Growth Gets Messy ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC
We’d all like personal growth to be effortless and easy, smelling like spring flowers. It’s not always that way. Growth can get messy. Even when it’s something that we want, the precursor to, or the fallout from, the change can be really messy.
When we have a something we want to manifest, whether it’s a material thing, a relationship, or a condition change, to Consciousness it already exists. We just have to shift ourselves to that reality. But sometimes that shift is seismic.
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| It’s going to look so much better when you’re done |
I’m reminded of a woman I met who’d lost over 200lbs. Now, 200lbs is like dropping an entire human being out of your space. I asked her what contributed to her success and she shared that she’d done a lot of emotional work prior to the weight loss. That EFT had helped her work on core inner issues that supported external results.
I’ve had several times in my life where I called in enormous transformation, only to see my currently life razed to the ground before a new reality became established. Each time, it revealed flaws in my foundation. Let me correct that, *sometimes* there were flaws that came to light. Other times it was just that a new operating system was installed and all my old programs didn’t work any more.
(Now, if you’re going through a huge paradigm alteration, often the response to such growth can also feel “blah” or a weird sort of apathy. When you expand as Consciousness then all your old measures of success disappear. You no longer desire the material things you once thought were necessary. You lose that urge to compulsively fill empty needs. Satisfaction can seem boring. )
Messiness can look like a divorce, an illness, or big emotional reactions.
How you respond to this mess depends on whether you’re experiencing it as your body personality or as Consciousness. If you’re reacting as your body personality, you’re going to go through it kicking and screaming. I know, there were times in my past when I’d drive and scream at the top of my lungs, it was so painful.
If you’re responding as Consciousness, you might actually feel excited. You may be amused. You feel empowered and invigorated. You know that You, as Consciousness, are coming more into form. You are occupying your body space more fully.
You know you’re going through a life renovation or remodel. It’s possible to do this without getting divorced or sick. When you do this as Consciousness, you can create your loved one’s coming along for the ride.
I experienced this kind of remodel over a period from 2010-2013. My business was earning more than I’d ever had before, but my marriage was filled with conflict. Then my mother came down with Alzheimers and I left Seattle to go Washington DC for what I thought was a few months, to help her move. I ended up there for two years to help her die. My husband joined us after a year, and going through that ordeal brought us closer.
The relationship I have now is one I never imagined possible. We are more in love now than ever before. We have a prosperous life together. And my work has expanded to areas I’d never dreamed of.
You may be in the mess of your own Consciousness remodel. You can change your experience by shifting your awareness to viewing it as You as greater Consciousness.
As Consciousness you know the bigger picture. When you go through your growth experience as Consciousness, it actually is comforting to your body personality. As much as your analytical mind wants to control the show, it’s relieved that you as Consciousness are driving the bus.
Mystic Musings: How Can You Tell If You’re Going Through A Consciousness Shift?
How Can You Tell If You Are Going Through A Consciousness Shift? ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb
We hear all about this Consciousness Shift that’s happening, but how can you tell if it’s happening to you?
People like Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie had very marked transformations. They each literally woke up one morning and each found their ego had dissolved.
And, you know, they’re famous people. They have best selling books. They’ve been on Oprah. So that must be what happens when you shift, right? No more pain, no more money worries, and you’re instantly enlightened.
That’s what happened to them. That’s what’s happened to some people. I talked to a woman in New England who’d had a similar experience, but lived a very quiet life afterwards.
It was a relief to connect with her. Because I was worried about turning into Byron Katie or Eckhart Tolle. I think it would be a pain in the ass to live with them. I can’t imagine staying married or having my kids around me, if I were questioning every thought or being constantly in the present moment.
Of course that’s the monkey mind ego talking. Because in reality, Byron Katie has a better relationship now with her adult children than when they were growing up. And has a loving relationship with her husband. Eckhart Tolle is also married (although I remember reading how he drove his wife crazy sorting out the recycling a piece at a time, when she just wanted to get it to the curb for pickup).
But the Consciousness Shift is different for everyone. It’s like being at a baseball game and the crowd does “the Wave”. People across the stadium start standing up, and it goes around the stands until it comes to you. Not everyone is standing up at once. And not everyone experiences it in the same way.
I’ve been evolving as Consciousness since 1974, consciously using techniques since 1981, and my language and experience has changed and expanded along the way. In 2006 I reached a tipping point, which propelled me into a new way of being.
Some people are finding themselves hyper sensitive, they’re feeling or sensing everyone around them. Some are having a hard time sleeping. Many feel uncomfortable and out of sorts with their old lives, and yet excited and impassioned about what seems to be awakening within.
A lawyer I know felt crazy because she wanted to quit her practice and be a Reiki Master.
A Christian who spent every Sunday in Church since childhood, left her community and discovered a deeper spirituality than she’d ever thought possible.
What happened to me is my old practice stopped working, my old belief system disintegrated. It was very disorienting, since I was very identified with my teachings. I was an energy expert, in techniques that have been around for thousands of years.
I’ve successfully “upgraded” those original techniques, and found new ways to navigate. I had to learn to bypass my intellect, and be improvisational, responding to whatever shows up in the moment.
In the past few years my empathy has gone through the roof. I sense family members who live 3,000 and 6,000 miles away. I know when someone has read an email I’ve sent. And that’s just with people who are still alive.
Ten years ago when I had a stint as a phone psychic, I developed clairvoyant techniques for talking with dead people. However what I experience now is kinesthetic, I’ll feel them waft through me. And visual, usually symbolic reminders that they’re around, although recently I’m actually detecting thought forms. Which might be more about time and space breaking down for me than actually connecting with the being in it’s deceased non-physical form.
The newest experience for me is noticing gridlines. Not vertical like in the movie the Matrix, but horizontal, and sparkly, superimposed over physical reality.
The other day I was having a challenging time, taking someone recently diagnosed with dementia to a support group. It was bringing up memories of doing the same thing for my mother, although this situation and this person is completely different. Experiences like this have been coming up recently and they’re an opportunity to be in present time, and release past energy.
When I was in the present moment, I would see these gridlines. When I sunk into my thoughts, they went away. Or, more accurately, I sunk into density and my ability to notice the gridlines went away. I’m choosing not to label or define it, I’m just noticing what is happening.
It’s a very subtle shift. And I suspect for everyone, their expansion into Consciousness on one hand is subtle but profound.
On the other hand, physical reality could be completely falling apart around you. That does tend to happen when we move to a new level. When you no longer match the density you’re in, reality reorganizes.
It’s less painful when you don’t resist the changes. It’s more graceful when you navigate it as Consciousness.
You don’t have to try to do anything to expand. It’s happening without any effort on your part. You just have to notice. And enjoy the ride.
Birthing The New You
Birthing The New You ©2016 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC
Last night was pretty phenomenally uncomfortable. I woke up feeling constricted with competition. It was such a surprise to me, because I don’t operate on that level any more. My work is so new, the focus is different, that it doesn’t compare to what anyone else is doing. It would be like a runner competing with a hang glider. Different sports, different areas.
I’m not certain whose reality I was experiencing, but I would dearly love them to know –
Playing in the realm of Consciousness, you realize there’s plenty for everyone. There’s space for everyone to succeed. There’s enough time, money, love.
Newborn in Nepal – photo credit Krish Dulal
Even if you’re not feeling it right now, your inner Self knows it.This world may seem rigid and finite, an adventure in Density and Effort, but when you’re playing as Consciousness, you realize that it’s all malleable. Time expands (or contracts) depending on your focus. Money is infinitely available (and usually comes out of left field rather than from the direction you’re expecting it). You are enveloped in Love. You ARE Love. There is always enough.
What it feels like now, is that we’re going through a collective Quickening. We’re feeling our creation kick. Their foot may actually be stuck under our ribcage. It’s when your pregnancy goes from just being morning sickness and weight gain, to the awareness that there’s something alive growing within you. It’s exciting and a little terrifying.
For some who have felt this evolution longer, it may be actual Transition. The most intense phase of labor, the most painful part as the baby is moving out through your cervix to slide down your birth canal.
In my two pregnancies, which were both at home and without drugs, when labor started I thought, ‘I’ve changed my mind!’ Whoops – too late. The baby is coming. Your body knows what to do. Breathe and relax and push when you’re in Transition.
You are giving birth to your New Self. The Greater Aspect of You is coming into form. It is powerful, it is exciting, it is thrilling and, yeah, a bit scary.
You’ve been going through contractions as you hit your internal limitations, all the programming and patterns created to convince you that you’re the opposite of who You truly are.
The world has been reflecting this, as people are having meltdowns, people are losing their shit, archaic beliefs are rising up, people are collectively crying out, no longer tolerating the intolerable.
When you don’t resist what is breaking down, when you don’t hold on to what is disintegrating within your fingers, you can enjoy this process so much more.
What’s on the other side of this is glorious. It is a love more profound than you can imagine. It is a greater relationship (with your Self) than you could have thought possible. It is the life of your dreams.
You are birthing You, you are magnificent, and adorable. You are loved, loveable, and worthy of love. You are surrounded by support. Everyone who shows up is a midwife or a doula to your new experience.
Relax, breath, and see what happens!