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Mystic Musings: Ghosts Of The Past

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Ghosts Of The Past ©2019 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

Since September, I’ve been mostly back East, helping my little brother recover from a stroke. One of the not so hidden gifts of being there is that I get to recognize matching experiences we’ve had, growing up in our family with it’s unique background.

As kids, we moved every few years to different countries. It was a rich and varied in cultural experiences. We learned to be resilient and adaptable. We came out citizens of the world. 

And, we had to represent the United States, be the picture perfect family, while at the same time not really standing out. If we stood out, we could get kidnapped or killed. Essentially we learned to hide in plain site.

It makes it really difficult to be successful as an adult if you can’t be seen. If you can’t really e yourself.

We had lofty goals placed above us, ones we couldn’t reach, with the idea that it would stretch us. But really it set us up to fail.

And there were always critical asides, which continued on until a few years ago. Meant to belittle us, and also divide us. Keep us separate so we can’t compare notes.

These asides continue to get repeated even after the original speaker died. They have a ripple effect throughout the whole family. They get repeated and passed on.

And they knock around inside our head. The original speaker is dead, why can’t these thoughts die, too?

Early in my career as a coach, I worked with women from a domestic violence survivor group. Even though they’d divorced their abusers, the things they said still haunted them.

They learned to catch the thoughts as they had them, and do something to dismiss them. One woman would put her hand up in the “stop” gesture. In the middle of teaching water aerobics, she found herself doing it, and the whole class, following her, put their hands up, too. Later, she had to talk to her abuser in person, and when he started to say something, she automatically put her hand up, and it stopped him in reality as well.

When it happens in our heads, we can recognize these thoughts as not being real, not in the present moment. You can stop them, dismiss them, highlight and delete them, flush them down an imaginary toilet. You’ll find a tremendous amount of energy being released.

When it happens by coming out of the mouths of others, you can question them. Was that really what was said? Was that really true? People operate unconsciously, you don’t have to argue with them, you can just question the statement (or share your differing experience).

Ghosts of the past exist in the shadows. You don’t have to be afraid of no ghosts. Shine the light of truth on them, and they’ll disappear.

When It’s Good To Lose Your Cookies (and How To Keep What You Don’t Want To Lose) ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

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We are multidimensional beings, so much more than just bodies and minds. Out energy exists both within and outside of time and space. We intuitively know that coming into this life but the world of density and effort diverts our attention. We quickly forget that we are Consciousness creating in form.

From the moment we’re conceived, we’re creating and absorbing impressions. Our bodies and energy systems are picture galleries. Our experience of the world is colored by all the data we collect.

By the time we’re adults are hard drives are filled with every memory we’ve lived and every concept we’ve taken in. We’re quite solidified in our beliefs about reality.

When we go through changes, we release anything that shaped our prior reality and create new ones. When our body/personalities are in agreement with these changes, or at least know what’s coming up, it’s easier. There may still be an adjustment but the discomfort is less when our body/personalities know what’s coming up.

From the body/personality level, in order to move forward we need to delete our cookies. This can take time if we choose to “process”, use rituals, or talk it out.  It can also take forever if you don’t want to lose pictures or memories that you feel are precious. They may be painful, but you feel are significant to your identity.

At the next level up, in the mind, thought, Spirit realm, you can de-energize the cookies (you can symbolically blow them up, make them disappear, or highlight and delete them). But you face the same stumbling blocks.

The level beyond is Consciousness, where transformation is instant and effortless. It’s a shift in dimensional frequency where you can still be “here”, fully embodied and present, but not in the density of the story. Rather than clearing blocks or deleting cookies, you just step into a parallel universe where everything is different.

You don’t need to think it out when you’re operating as Consciousness. You come from a place of playful curiosity.  It’s subtle but very profound. It’s pictures beyond pixels, reality beyond atoms and molecules.

It’s helpful to know that nothing you care about is ever energetically lost, even if it’s gone from your experience. Everything still exists as Consciousness, you can imagine storing them in the cloud. As Consciousness we have infinite storage. A simple way to do this is to decide to ‘delete cookies’ when you go to sleep at night, and that anything you don’t want deleted can get moved to your cloud storage.

Play with this for the next few days and see what happens!