Tag: Empath
Mystic Musings: Slogging Through Other People’s Density
Slogging Through Other People’s Density ©2019 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC
I’ve had several nights this week where I’ve been awake for ages, feeling other realities waft through me. I’m able to discern they’re not mine, but I’m not fully able to pinpoint whose they are. But boy, some people are having a really difficult time!
Several people are crippled with anxiety. A couple folks are in the depths of despair. One gets me as they’re mired in resentment, and I can go there myself all too easily in the wee hours.
It’s almost always a loved one who’s emotional energy I tune into, they span 6,000 miles and several time zones. But I often forget about the most obvious one – my husband right beside me in bed.
A devout Buddhist, he has a practice of praying for people, so during his wakeful hours he’ll start thinking about different groups that are suffering. Which sounds oh so holy and lovely but for the empath next to him it’s pretty gruelling.
I’ll have no reference point or clue that he’s focusing on starving Sudanese, or someone who is ailing. But I’ll feel their emotional resonance.
It occurs to me that we’re all influenced by other people’s density, now more so than ever before. As we collectively go through the shift in Consciousness, our sensitivity is increasing. But our first reaction is to think it’s our own reality.
Certainly, feeling other people’s struggles colors our own experiences, but you don’t need to stay stuck in their stuff. It doesn’t help them to match their level of discomfort, and you can still have compassion while being detached.
Someone I know who is married to a psychic, created a technique for being able to sleep at night when his spouse is dealing with different vibrations. He uses an imaginary lead curtain (like the aprons they put on you at the dentist office when you’re having x-rays).
You can also imagine yours frequency to be a 1/2 step above the vibration you’re dealing with. It allows you to separate from the density without totally detaching.
If you’re visual, you can imagine your energy field to be a different color than theirs. If they’re a dark blue or grey, yours can be yellow or pink.
An ancient technique is to imagine a rose at the edge of your energy field, creating a defining line between your space and others’. I think of it like floats in a swimming pool that let you know where the deep end is.
Of course, at 2am I didn’t think about any of these suggestions, or I would have gotten a better night’s sleep!
Try these yourself and see how your reality changes!
Mystic Musings: Are You Creating Reality As A Stick Figure?
Are You Experiencing Reality As A Stick Figure? ©2018 Joan Newcomb
How are you experiencing reality? Does it feel very extreme, very black-and-white, intense drama, reactivity? Or do you have breathing space, clarity, balance, choice?
On a walk this week I mused about reality and manifestation. When I’m aligned and connected, my surroundings come into sharp focus. Greens seem greener, trees are more defined. I get the sense of walking through this physical reality and it’s more profoundly ‘real’ but on a multi-dimensional level.
There’s a belief that this reality is a full-immersion video game, that we’re walking around in these meat suits, but we’re making it all up. It goes so far as to imply that others in our reality aren’t real, we created them to be there.
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| Are you experiencing your reality as a stick figure? |
As an empath, I had difficulty with this, because I can feel other people’s feelings, even if they’re 3,000 miles away. They are sharing their emotional reality with me, and I know it’s not mine.
Even though I have a higher awareness, I can easily feel entangled in intensity and drama, extreme emotions, if I’m experiencing other’s reality. If I resist it, I get more stuck in it. If I can detach, I can feel compassion for their challenges, and send healing.
But the ‘I create my own reality, and nothing is real, including other people’ didn’t work for me, at least in the cartoonish way it was presented.
It also says that there is no free will, we’re all going along predetermined scripts, so stop trying to change, fix, or control things. This didn’t quite feel true to me, either.
Technology has advanced in the years since I first heard this idea, and we now have on-line gaming and Wii.
And while I’ve been musing, two videos came to my attention. The first one was Bill Nye (“The Science Guy”) talking about creationism vs. evolution. Creationism can be very black and white, very limiting. God created everything, God put us here, full stop.
It’s a one dimensional explanation for a multi-dimensional world.
The second video was Neil deGrasse Tyson saying the most astounding fact is that our molecules and atoms are made up of the same elements from the beginning of the Universe.
As I listened to the second video, which really described evolution from the initial creation of the Universe, I realized that it was taking Creationism’s stick figure explanation and giving it width and depth and length.
Sometimes Science, however, leaves out the aspect of Consciousness, which gives their theories color and tone.
When we were collectively operating from a lower level of awareness, we could only understand things from a stick-figure perspective. What was written in ancient texts was complex ideas put forth in a simplistic fashion, much like how you would talk to a child about college level subjects.
‘I created my reality, nothing is real, including other people, there is no free will, it’s all pre-scripted’ is too simplistic as well.
Reality is a complex creation of Consciousness, a game with infinite levels of possibilities. You can play it any way you want. There is free will, just like a Gamer has choices of taking different actions and it changes the outcome of their playing session. There are other Gamers in the equation, which makes the whole experience much more interesting.
It’s not just you in your own studio composing on a synthesizer, but an orchestra of musicians each contributing their piece.
And yet, on a higher level, it is. As Consciousness, you’ve put forth the elements, but you’ve also created individuals to run around and bang their own symbols. You are both Consciousness and the symbol-banger. You are both the Programmer and the Gamer.
However, in your ‘meat-suit’, there’s only so much you can comprehend. The more immersed you are in the denseness of physical reality, the less you can be attuned to the greater world.
In my early metaphysical training, there was distain for intellectualism. In many religious belief systems there’s an aversion to the Mind. It’s true that the intellect/Mind can distance you from spiritual Truth, but it’s the same distortion as *lack* of intelligence saying Creationism is the only reality.
Consciousness in an Intelligence greater than your own brain, greater than your individual mind. It’s the Internet vs. your hard drive. God is not a jealous or limiting or punishing god. God is Consciousness.
And it’s not all just atoms and molecules and fishes with feet. The invisible reality beyond that which is measurable, is Consciousness.
Consciousness brings both dichotomies together. Because Consciousness transcends time and space, so from that perspective you could say there’s no evolution, but only because it’s all happening at once (no time).
If, while you are walking along a street, you could shift your vibration to a lower speed, you could see what occurred on that street in the past. If you could raise your vibration to a higher speed, you could see what will be happening on that same sidewalk in the future.
Your meat suit can’t do that. Your Consciousness can.
But don’t go there (unless you’re on your third espresso of the day). You are Consciousness manifesting in this meat suit for the fun of experiencing this present moment in these parameters of density and effort. When you die, you’ll realize your lifetime only a blink of an eye, that you always are Consciousness. If you spend all your time going outside yourself to feel Spirit, you’ll miss the point of being here.
However, this Reality game is so big, it encompasses every belief and approach. Just as there is no one True religion, nor definition of God, there’s no one right way to live life.
Go ahead an visualize, go ahead and use manifestation techniques. Or let go of creating your reality and go with the script. It’s all valid.
If you choose to be a fundamentalist, that’s the Game you’ll experience. If you choose to be an atheist, that’s the reality you’ll have. From the level of Consciousness, there is no good or bad (ethics only exist in the physical realm).
This week, I invite you to play with whatever works for you. Just being playful can shift you out of extremes and reactivity. Try it for yourself. And see what happens!
[updated from “It’s All Good” published Sept. 2012]