When Stuff Happens That You Don’t Like

How To Be Neutral When Life Gets Crazy ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

The other day I was talking with a woman who is a natural psychic. She sees things in depth, but is swayed by the pain and suffering that she uncovers.

It made me remember my days as a clairvoyant student and the bulk of our training was on reading from a neutral space. In order to give a clear and balanced interpretation for a client, we need to see them without our own preconceived notions coloring our ‘lenses’.

Cosmic Soap Bubbles (God Takes A Bath) WoodlyWonderWorks

This ability to see things from a higher perspective is invaluable, especially during these insane times.

It’s not heartless to be neutral, it’s actually highly spiritual.

The qualities of Consciousness are neutrality, amusement, childlike wonder, immense wisdom, depth, and impartiality. It is Love in it’s highest form, which is unbiased and unconditional.

Now we’re all becoming more highly sensitive, which means our abilities are increasing: to feel other’s feelings, see clearly beyond façades, intuitively “know” what’s about to happen, pick up on other’s thoughts, and the list goes on.

When we’re experiencing life from a ‘boots on the ground’ viewpoint, we’re going to feel the world’s pain, we’re going to judge what we see as good or bad, we’re going to feel responsible for events beyond our control, and be confused about what is us and what is the collective.

Terrible things are happening in the world all the time. There’s a bigger spotlight on them now, we can immediately see tragedies around the world, where ever people have smart phones that can load images on the internet.

It’s overwhelming.

How can you be neutral when life is so crazy?

Here’s a few things you can do:

1. Imagine yourself a Half Step Above whatever you’re experiencing. If you’re in a crowd, allow yourself to be a “half step above” the prevalent emotion. If you’re watching something on TV or on your device, be a ‘half step above’ internally. It shifts your perspective up a notch, giving you some distance from what you’re observing.

2. Another way to do this is Be A Different Color or Tone. If you’re in a group of people and their energy is darker, imagine your personal bubble to be a lighter or brighter color.  If you detect things by sound, if you’re perceiving static or disharmony, let yourself be a different musical tone.

3. Blow bubbles, you can do this for real, or just in your head. Watching TV or reading the news, imagine a stream of bubbles popping. It helps clear your preconceived notions about what is going on. This is also a great way to go to sleep at night, clearing your brain so you’re fresh in the morning.

4. A Consciousness Technique is to view things from farther away, like sitting in the Skybox at a football game, or hovering over the game in a Goodyear Blimp. When you see people as players on the field (and even yourself down there as a player in this game of life), you can get a ‘bigger picture’ of what is going on.

This world is full of dichotomies and contradictions. Physical reality is real in that it’s meant to be physically experienced, through our bodies. But it’s a creation of our Consciousness. As Consciousness, we love our creation. As Consciousness, we’re both in time and space (as we’re experiencing it in form) and outside of it. Outside of time and space, it’s all happening at once in the blink of an eye. It’s all happening simultaneously, that means all lifetimes *and* all possibilities.

We can’t comprehend that from within our bodies and personalities, that live along a linear timeline.

When you can get neutral, and shift your perspective to that as Consciousness, you can have compassion for those that are suffering, and also for those that cause suffering. You can appreciate and love all of this wonderful world.

Try these for the next several days and watch your life reorganize in amazing ways!

The Difference Between Truth and Reality

Attack of the Zombie Gremlins!

Attack of the Zombie Gremlins! ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

We all have negative voices in our heads. Dr. Daniel Amen calls them Automatic Negative thoughts. Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor says they’re a cluster of cells on the left side of our brain responsible for keeping us organized, reminding us to buy milk on the way home from work, or get our taxes done by the 15th. I realize that it’s our body’s GPS, containing all the programming we’ve ever received about how to be in this world.

Our GPS’ are filled with outdated maps and misinformation. It’s set on “avoid highways” and ‘fastest route’ at the same time. And if you try to vary your method for getting somewhere, it will loudly protest.  This is your inner Gremlin, your Automatic Negative Thought.

Gremlin voices arise Whenever you try something new, and go beyond the programming from your childhood, whether it’s family, societal, cultural, religious or whatever.

Gremlins are familiar, they’ve been in your head all your life. You don’t even realize they’re not your own thoughts. You just accept them as reality.

They’re incredibly limiting. You can’t go beyond their boundaries. They dismiss your dreams.

I woke up in the morning with this thought, “Zombie Gremlins”. Reflecting on what is going on in the world today, there seems to be so much unconsciousness. So many people running off their Automatic Negative Thoughts.

They’re not even questioning their thoughts, they’re just letting this dysfunctional GPS steer them off into the bushes, like some jury-rigged self driving car.

It’s easy to do, when you think that you *are* your vehicle, and you think your Automatic Negative Thoughts are real.

You feel powerless to these thoughts, and incapable of changing your route, when it seems like *everyone* is driving this way.

However, when you shift your awareness to your Essential Self, you recognize that your hands are on the wheel. You steer where your attention is.

Take your attention off the negative thoughts, and you start to notice so many more possibilities out in the world. (The ANTS get louder at first, but when you don’t feed them with your attention, they fade away).

The bigger reason why Zombie Gremlins seem so prevalent in the world today, is that greater Light is more present in the world today.

Greater Consciousness is more present. And your Essential Self is the You that is Greater Consciousness.

You turn on the lights and exposes the dysfunction. You start to drive differently and your ANTS go nuts. Temporarily.

When ANTS show up during the day, squash ’em, feed ’em to your ANTeater, send ’em to the ANT farm.

Put a bowl of sugar outside the garage before you retire at night, beside the Anteater cage (within tongue licking distance).

Or you can just tell yourself you’re going to update your GPS when you go to sleep and your inner computer with automatically reorganize.

Play with this for the next 7 days and your life will totally transform.

Mystic Minute: What Time Is All About.

Staying Present In Traumatic Times ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

The last couple weeks were somewhat traumatic. First, my 15 year old dog had a seizure and possible stroke, and the next week a family member who has COPD (possibly emphysema) and MCI (mild cognitive problems) went into the hospital with pneumonia. It took be back to a time I’ve written about a lot, 2011-2013, with our other dog who had cancer and then neurological problems, and my mother who had Alzheimer’s and lung cancer.

This recent period felt like a “pop quiz” reminder of what I learned then. Or perhaps continuing education, as there’s always new awareness to be gleaned.

2010-2013 was a long, arduous process of ultimately midwifing my mother (my dog, and later my father) back to Spirit. Each of them had their own exiting process, each had different circumstances and choices to be made.

It’s a shock when it first happens, and it’s easy to feel that things are out of control. When my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s (right as we had finished paying off the dog’s cancer surgery), it was a breakdown in my own reality as well.

However, for the most part, I remembered to keep a higher awareness, while external circumstances seemed to crumble. It would have been easy to have collapsed in a heap, but reframing reality helped. This was *not* a crisis but an event.

Joan and Dorothy, Washington DC, Sept. 2012

I reminded myself that I was powerless over events and other people’s reactions to them, but not necessarily my own. I had choice over my actions (and response as best I could). I worked hard at being mindful, researching and asking for advice before making important decisions.

I also learned to not resist what is. I thought I could combat the Alzheimer’s, get her into a memory program, give her the right nutrition, do my energetic healing, etc. But it was like trying to stop a river with outstretched fingers. When she was diagnosed with cancer, and the initial treatment didn’t work, it shifted my focus to quality of life (rather than longevity).

It would have been a waste of energy to resist the little things, becoming my mother’s parent, her eventually confusing me with her older sister who died in 1997.

It was important to stay focused on the important things (creating moments of joy for my mother). And to stay in present time, as I was back in my old home town that I left in 1981 and interacting with some people who hadn’t talked to me in ten years.

I had to stay the grown up, the one responsible for life and death decisions, and do the next indicated thing that was best for all concerned.

This is all coming back to me as I observe my other dog age, and as this family member is navigating this part of their life path. It’s different now, I’m only peripherally in this family member’s life, and this current dog isn’t doing so bad for 105 in people years.

We all have (at least) two parts to ourselves. The physical personality that reacts to situations and runs off of memories tinged with emotions. And the greater aspect of ourselves, Consciousness, that encompasses the bigger picture.

When you see things from that bigger picture viewpoint, and can let yourself as Consciousness be the one that makes decisions and takes action, it’s so much easier to get through painful and traumatic times.

Your not in denial about what’s happening, you can still be grieving the loss of what it was like before, but you’re able to hold a bigger space, respond with greater inner authority.

We’re in traumatic times even if our daily lives are going well. The world seems to be falling apart, when it’s really Consciousness reorganizing reality.

Shift your perspective to Consciousness and you will inwardly know that all is very, very well.

Mystic Minute: How is Two Steps Forward, One Step Back Progress?!?

When Your Past Revisits You ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

I found myself walking into the hospital yesterday to visit a relative. The last time I went there, they were in the emergency room and I almost couldn’t go in, I was having so many flashbacks to taking care of my mother and being in the hospital and sleeping in a chair in her room for 18 days with her.

This time I felt an energetic shift as I walked into the building. My body, my energy system, felt fully in the present moment. I was aware of the memories but detached from the intense emotions from that time.

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It allowed me to have a pleasant visit with him, even setting up Skype so he could talk with his son.

This has happened in layers over the past few years. My mother went into the hospital in August of 2011 (first traumatic event). We went to the same hospital for laser treatment on her lung cancer in October. We went for a followup MRI in December where it revealed the treatment didn’t work. In February of 2012 she went on home hospice so we didn’t have to go there any more.

In June of 2013 my husband was hospitalized overnight for a suspected heart attack (it was an infection instead), and I was surprised at my visceral response. Different hospital, opposite side of the country, but even so.

And since then, there’s been three other hospital trips with different people, so I guess repeated exposure has helped de-sensitize me, and de-energize my memories.

For some people it re-traumatizes every time, and hardens into full blown resistance.

Today I see them as opportunities to release and let go.

Our past seems to revisit us but really the patterns are swirling about us all the time. We notice them showing up in our reality, because we’re passing through that pattern. It’s either unraveling or tangling, and we have an opportunity to respond differently.

When I don’t fight the memories, when I see the patterns as opportunities, I can soften to them and not get entangled.

When someone shows up in your story line from the past you can see them as an actor returning for a cameo role. Unless you want them to reenter as a returning cast member. It’s you’re show, you can decide.

Also, as you navigate your life from the perspective of Consciousness, you will notice that some people drop out of your life, because they’re no longer a vibrational match. You can view them as cast members who aren’t renewing their contract this season.

Just because your past is revisiting you, doesn’t mean that you are returning to a previous state. It’s like going home and realizing that your childhood house seems much smaller now. You’re bigger, and maybe no longer a fit for those circumstances.

Even if you want to go home, you’re not returning as the past person that you were. You get to be there in the present moment, as the adult and evolving Consciousness that you are.

Consciousness is expanding rapidly. We are experiencing frequencies accelerating at an unprecedented rate. There’s a lot of turnover happening right now.

Stay in present time and non resistance, and all this can be very enjoyable!

Mystic Minute: What Do You Mean, The World Is a Hologram??

When To Hold On, and When To Let Go ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb

My dog Emma had a seizure and possible stroke this morning. She’s nearly 15 and her back legs tend to give out, so when I heard noises at 5am, I thought she’d lost her balance on the kitchen floor. Instead she was lying sideways, looking like she was running, except for the drool coming out of her paralyzed face.

We sat with her as it finished and tended to her for what seemed like hours as she regained her ability drink water and then to walk.

Corentin de Chatelperron by Elaine Apa

I flashed back to 2013 when our other dog, Basil, died very slowly, probably from a brain tumor. He’d had an operation in 2010 that was temporarily successful, but when it apparently came back at age 12 we let him complete his life at home. It was an arduous and unnecessarily painful death.

Today, however, I sat with Emma and did my Consciousness Techniques on her, helping her electrical system come back on line when the seizure completed, allowed for the bigger pattern to reorganize, and still was surprised how normal she was when we were able to get her into the vet.

Thinking of Basil, I’d also communicated with her that if this was time for her to go, it was okay.

Basil’s initial illness came during a breakdown-breakthrough time in my life, in fact the operation and the year long repayment for it, helped postpone any decisions. Which lead to my being able to go back East to help my mother the next year. It was a time to hold on. Hold on to Basil, hold on to my mother. Yet I also held on to the on line aspects of my business, my radio show and my phone consultations, while letting go of my Seattle office and in person classes, and wedding business.

2013 was a time of letting go. My mother finally passed in January. We came back to Seattle with a dying dog. Basil passed in April. We let go of our house on Vashon Island that October, and after we moved to Tacoma,  I flew back East to help my father pass. There was also some holding on – my husband was hospitalized in July for what was thought was a heart attack (it was not).

The last few years have been a time of rebuilding, I started a new radio show with a cohost, I started Meetups around the Puget Sound, and I restructured my coaching business. It’s felt like a long time of holding on, holding space to provide stability for new growth.

I’m aware of the cycle shifting again, and I’m wondering what letting go is required. As I wrote this, I got the impression that a sailing analogy was called for. Except I’m not a sailor. So I Google’d “sailing terms” and found this:

If you’re sailing through life, you have to hold on sometimes, and sometimes let go. If the wind is coming at you, you have to let go of your sail, and the expectation that you’d get there as soon as you’d like. If you hold on at the wrong times, you can get blown over or go off course.

When the wind is at your back, you still have to let go of your sail or it could violently swing and the boom knock you over.

We’re sailing through the energy of life and it requires skill and intuition. Just like sailing a boat, there’s a whole body artistry to it, sometimes holding on and letting go at the same time.

There’s an expression sailors use, to “leave it on the wave behind”. Let go of whatever needs letting go of, hold onto what needs holding, and you’ll get there more swiftly.

MYSTIC MINUTE: How to See the World Clearly

How to Create Reality (a simple primer for manifesting as an Infinite Being) ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

Reality is created from the non-physical. It’s created outside of time and space. It’s created beyond thought, although thought has an effect. It starts with an intent, a notion, and is given form through focus. It is created by Consciousness or Source, and which is the spark of life in everything. That includes what we would deem as not alive. It may not have perceivable sentience, but it has Consciousness as it’s source.

It is all Consciousness, and we are Consciousness. Our life Essence is Consciousness. We are creating this reality moment to moment.

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Reality is a spectrum and has different densities to it. What we see, physically feel, seems solid, is one part of the spectrum. There is a part that we sense physically that we can’t see, we may describe it as a place’s “atmosphere”. It’s a collective resonance contributed to by all life forms (this can include plants and animals, and historic events).

Emotions are unique to our physical bodies, it’s our body’s communication system, it’s our response to the world and we can create from this part of this spectrum. You can bring your desires into reality by focusing on the feelings they create in you. (We unconsciously bring what we *don’t* want into reality by being preoccupied with uncomfortable feelings)!

Thought is another way to manifest into form. What we think about regularly takes on density, Which is why visualization, affirmations, and vision boards seem to work so well. However, if the mind that is using thought to do this is coming from the perception that there’s something lacking, something wrong, etc. – that will show up in the manifestation as well. Which is why you may find there is always a loophole or a glitch in the things you try to consciously create!

Reality seems solid and real yet can shift in mysterious, magical ways. It’s only part of the program in this physical game, just as time and space are part of the structure. When we create from the emotional or thought levels, it takes time and space to bring things into form. They have to be constructed within physical rules. There’s a rhythm to this kind of creation, it takes two years for things to manifest into form from first conception.

When we create as Consciousness, it is very effortless. It is ‘outside the box’ manifesting. The timeline becomes less fixed and solid. Things can happen instantaneously. Things may seem random. They don’t come in predictable ways, they usually show up ‘out of left field’.

Bring an open minded intention to Consciousness and the results are more than you can possibly imagine. The qualities of Consciousness are playfulness, curiosity, neutrality. As Consciousness, you are lighthearted and amused. There are no mistakes and nothing is ‘bad’. This world is a game, a playground, an experiment.

At this level, we’re not ‘co-creating’, it’s the realm of unity, oneness, I-AM ness. Nothing influences You, nothing is more powerful than You.

As you go about your day, shift your awareness from your normal way of thinking. Start to perceive the world as Consciousness, the Essence of who you really are. See everything as your Conscious creation. Notice what changes when you do that.

Give yourself time to notice what that feels like, without trying, without effort. And watch how your life reorganizes around you without your having to do anything to make it happen. Things start to show up in your reality with delightful synchronicity. All you have to do is appreciate and enjoy the process.

Try thing for the next seven days and see what happens!