Tag: Adventures In Density And Effort

Mystic Musings: Don’t Apologize For Being Neutral!

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Don’t Apologize For Being Neutral ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

There is a lot of emotional and mental noise in the world today. Things are really polarized. And there’s a big message out there that if you aren’t upset about something, there’s something wrong with you!

Often, however, the more dramatic the scenario, the less likely it is to be true. It’s more likely a distraction from something else really going on. Or is simply an indicator of a distorted perception.

97% of us grew up in dysfunctional homes. Many of us suffer from PTSD. When triggered, there’s going to be a very, *big*, reaction. And, wow, there’s a lot to react to in the news.

But how does it feel to react to all that’s going on? How does it feel to be in the thick of it?

I find it really frustrating and painful. I had a lot of sleepless nights this time last year. It reminded me of the misogynism and narcissism of my childhood. My response, when I got old enough, was to fight back. In that scenario, I think I was the only one to leave without feeling like a victim, with a sense of power because I could stand up.

Yeah. That’s a pattern that’s not in present time.

My expanded perspective now, as Consciousness, is that anything that is negating, anything that is dramatic, is not the Truth. It is an entanglement of density. It emanates from bodies and personalities and is disconnected from Consciousness.

When I’m responding as Consciousness, I feel neutral. I don’t get emotionally caught up in the stories. I have a bigger picture viewpoint. I see the greater Light of Consciousness shining in the world and exposing that which has been hidden in shadows. I see uncomfortable patterns rising to the surface to be cleared.

There’s a valuable tool I learned when working with families and friends of alcoholics, and it’s called ‘detachment’. It’s being able to detach, to not be emotionally affected by the alcoholic’s behavior. When you stop responding to the chaos created by someone actively drinking, you can clearly see how you can adjust your own behavior. You can learn how to step back and let them have the consequences of their actions. It gives you the energy to take care of yourself instead.

Now, folks who are embroiled in the drama are going to get pissed off if you’re not in the trenches with them. They’ll accuse you of being disassociated, or frigid, or ‘on the other side’.

But when you respond as Consciousness, you’re able to not get drawn in. You don’t need to apologize for being neutral.

Being neutral doesn’t mean not having any feelings at all. But the feelings are even, not turbulent. Mostly as Consciousness, I feel compassionate, and even amused if it’s really batshit crazy.

I’ve even felt sad about some situations. But as Consciousness I know things can get reversed in an instant. As Consciousness, I know that *everyone* is Consciousness, even if they’re not currently acting like it.

As Consciousness I know that this lifetime happens in a blink of an eye. This, too, shall pass. They, too, shall pass. Things, and people, can change.

Responding, from neutral, is retaining your power as Consciousness. No one has authority over your internal space. You can make empowered choices as Consciousness. And that leads to an incredible sense of freedom.

Blog: Acceptance Is Not Surrender, Ceding or Giving In

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Acceptance Is Not Surrender, Ceding or Giving In ©2016 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

There’s a popular prayer that starts by asking for the serenity to accept the things you cannot change.
It’s a powerful statement. You are accepting what is, but not agreeing to it.

In accepting the situation, you are acknowledging the reality of it. You are not in denial that it is happening, you are not avoiding the reality. You are actually standing in your own power, while being powerless over other’s behavior or external circumstances.

Acceptance allows you to take action, to respond rather than react. You can make better choices when you’re not reacting.

Glowing Flower with Sunlight, photo credit: Tbala11

Now, there’s also an aspect of Surrender that doesn’t mean ceding your power, or giving in. It means you are not resisting the dominating energy. When you resist, you become rigid, you get stuck. You actually attract what you’re resisting.  In non-resistance, the negative energy passes through. You can weave around it. It dissipates.

A few years ago I was in a situation that was intolerable. I was powerless over the outcome. I was powerless over other people’s behavior.

Others might have said, but you could have talked to them about it. This was your opportunity to speak out.

I did not waste energy fighting it or trying to change them. I placed principles before personalities. I focused on the bigger picture. I remained in integrity with my core values.

I was there to do something no one else could do, I brought my awareness of Consciousness to the situation. What unfolded was greater than what anyone there could acknowledge.

And so it is.

You may be going home for the holidays and dreading becoming enmeshed in the dysfunctional family patterns. You might be avoiding certain relatives because of painful memories.

You could be distracted by the news, by the current insanity in politics. You could be outraged by people’s refusal to be involved, or general unconsciousness.

You cannot change, fix, or manipulate the world outside yourself without getting entangled in it. You can detach, by stepping back emotionally.

You can accept that most people aren’t operating at optimal awareness. Most people are playing out invisible programming.

When you can see that and not resist it, you reclaim your energy from it.

You start to see the world through a different lens. You might actually be amused by it.

We have been through dark times before. There is too much light in the world nowadays.

The sun is more powerful than the night.

Stand in your own sunlight, shine in your own truth, and see how that transforms your life!

Blog 11/25: Bringing Light Into Darkness (Now More Than Ever)

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Bringing Light Into Darkness (Now more than ever) ©2016 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

Many years ago, I worked for a small Church.  One night I dreamed that I was outside the Church building in the dark, handing out fliers for our classes. Inside the Church, in the brightly lit staff room, was my co-worker, sitting on the floor with two students.

It pretty much sums up my role in life. I never get to be inside the place of light, I’m always outside telling people about it.

Lightbringers are her to bring Light, to carry the message that there is Light, which means we’re always venturing into the darkness.

It happens in relationships, too. They get involved with someone and it’s all hearts and flowers, then dark things come to the surface. It happens in jobs, they start working somewhere and corruption surfaces. Not because they found it, but their higher vibration shines light that makes darkness evident.

Someone emailed me the night of the US election, “where’s my Parallel Universe now???”  Because in my Meetups I talk about how we have infinite parallel universes and you can change your present experience at any time by stepping into one where things are unfolding in your favor. It’s as simple as changing lanes on the freeway.

So I’ve been reflecting on why I’m in this universe, which appears really traumatic and suckky for the world, rather than one that’s more fun and empowering for all.

Because I’m a frigging lightbringer and of course I end up in dark places.

My message to everyone is, not just that there is light, but that you ARE light. You *are* the greater light of Consciousness. There is more Consciousness in the world than every before. Our physical bodies are capable of holding a higher vibration now, we can be more embodied as Consciousness.

This is why it seems that there’s greater darkness, because in actuality there’s greater Light. It seems like darkness, unconsciousness, corruption, demagogues, fascists, and dictators are gaining power but those patterns are in the process of dissipating.

Yeah, really?? Or are we heading into another 1930’s with the rise of Hitler, Stalin, Mussolini, and Tojo?

It seems that way, and the difference now is that there’s greater Light. We, individually, are more empowered than ever before. And our ability to communicate with each other is better than ever before. Arab Spring was started by a Tunisian street vendor setting himself on fire, but it was spread by Twitter. Which lead to the collapse of long standing dictatorships throughout the Middle East.

We may feel powerless, but we’re not.

We may not all be Lightbringers, blazing trails in the darkness. Our life purpose for some of us may be anchors or stabilizers (creating a container for the new energy to come into form). There are many expressions of Consciousness in this world.

And we are each Light. As we stand in our Light, the world becomes brighter. Darkness disappears in full daylight.

Change can happen quickly nowadays. We can transform reality instantaneously. Let’s do so now, and not wait to create an American Spring.

Now more than ever, your unique Light is needed on the planet. Be authentically yourself. Express your uniqueness into the world.

Your light joins our lights and collectively we accelerate the evolution of Consciousness. Try this for the next 7 days and see what happens.!

Birthing The New You

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Birthing The New You ©2016 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

Last night was pretty phenomenally uncomfortable. I woke up feeling constricted with competition. It was such a surprise to me, because I don’t operate on that level any more. My work is so new, the focus is different, that it doesn’t compare to what anyone else is doing. It would be like a runner competing with a hang glider. Different sports, different areas.

I’m not certain whose reality I was experiencing, but I would dearly love them to know –

Playing in the realm of Consciousness, you realize there’s plenty for everyone. There’s space for everyone to succeed. There’s enough time, money, love.

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Newborn in Nepal – photo credit Krish Dulal

Even if you’re not feeling it right now, your inner Self knows it.This world may seem rigid and finite, an adventure in Density and Effort, but when you’re playing as Consciousness, you realize that it’s all malleable. Time expands (or contracts) depending on your focus. Money is infinitely available (and usually comes out of left field rather than from the direction you’re expecting it). You are enveloped in Love. You ARE Love. There is always enough.

What it feels like now, is that we’re going through a collective Quickening. We’re feeling our creation kick. Their foot may actually be stuck under our ribcage. It’s when your pregnancy goes from just being morning sickness and weight gain, to the awareness that there’s something alive growing within you. It’s exciting and a little terrifying.

For some who have felt this evolution longer, it may be actual Transition. The most intense phase of labor, the most painful part as the baby is moving out through your cervix to slide down your birth canal.

In my two pregnancies, which were both at home and without drugs, when labor started I thought, ‘I’ve changed my mind!’ Whoops – too late. The baby is coming. Your body knows what to do. Breathe and relax and push when you’re in Transition.

You are giving birth to your New Self. The Greater Aspect of You is coming into form. It is powerful, it is exciting, it is thrilling and, yeah, a bit scary.

You’ve been going through contractions as you hit your internal limitations, all the programming and patterns created to convince you that you’re the opposite of who You truly are.

The world has been reflecting this, as people are having meltdowns, people are losing their shit, archaic beliefs are rising up, people are collectively crying out, no longer tolerating the intolerable.

When you don’t resist what is breaking down, when you don’t hold on to what is disintegrating within your fingers, you can enjoy this process so much more.

What’s on the other side of this is glorious. It is a love more profound than you can imagine. It is a greater relationship (with your Self) than you could have thought possible. It is the life of your dreams.

You are birthing You, you are magnificent, and adorable. You are loved, loveable, and worthy of love. You are surrounded by support. Everyone who shows up is a midwife or a doula to your new experience.

Relax, breath, and see what happens!