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Mystic Musings: Peeling Away Layers, Releasing Relationships

Peeling Away The Layers and Releasing Relationships ©2018 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

The past four or five years, I’ve been focused on creating stability in my life. This has not been easy since my natural tendency is to bring light and light brings change. I grew up moving to different countries every 2-5 years, pulling up roots is second nature to me. Letting them sink deep is not.

I found myself creating groups, joining groups, and forging alliances in a very different way than ever before. I used to always feel on the periphery. I’d contribute, but was always mindful that at some point I’d be leaving. Relationships were lightly held.

There are some relationships I’ve created over the past few years that are draining. I’ve stayed committed to them, even when they take more than they give. At some point, they even stopped driving me crazy. But i didn’t have a reason to end them, even when I wanted to. (Funny to realize that just wanting to was not a strong enough reason).

Now, with my brother’s stroke, my caring for him is taking all my energy. It’s peeling away those relationships. I’m having to let go of anything inauthentic, anything that takes more than gives.

It’s amazing how it’s happening as well. Some are naturally stepping away, some I do have to haltingly put on hiatus, but even as I face this extremely limiting reality (I cannot go anywhere during the week, I have 12 hour days of caregiving and cannot leave the apartment unless there’s someone else to watch him, which most times there is not) it is also extremely freeing. All the responsibilities and obligations from before are released.

I’m not dropping any of these instantly, in certain cases I’m reluctantly letting some go. Even if I’ve been dissatisfied for a long time, there still was an invested interest. And yet it’s releasing all ties.

From one perspective, this seems outside imposed. These circumstances demand it. Like the Universe is making me do this. From another perspective, I’ve created this. As Consciousness, I’ve created this peeling away of layers, this release of whatever does not serve me. When I shift my perspective, I’m in total agreement with all that is going on. Because it’s my creation.

As Consciousness, there’s no need to change, fix, or manipulate anything happening on the outside. Although I have healing techniques that could change my brother’s state, I only use them when circumstances show up. Someone else instructed me to do “Qi Gong massage” on him, which I’m faithfully doing daily, and I feel it naturally shifting to my energy work.

Playing on this level, it’s simply about responding to what is. Navigating differently, making different choices.

There’s no judgement, no blame, no fault, no force. It’s a massive reorganization. Like moving furniture that hasn’t been moved for a while, there’s dust and debris, even lost items revealed.

We’re all going through enormous, evolutionary times. Every single one of us is Consciousness creating our unique storyline. Shift your perspective to Consciousness and you will know that all is very, very well.