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Mystic Musings: When Growth Gets Messy

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When Growth Gets Messy ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

We’d all like personal growth to be effortless and easy, smelling like spring flowers. It’s not always that way.  Growth can get messy. Even when it’s something that we want, the precursor to, or the fallout from, the change can be really messy.

When we have a something we want to manifest, whether it’s a material thing, a relationship, or a condition change, to Consciousness it already exists. We just have to shift ourselves to that reality. But sometimes that shift is seismic.

It’s going to look so much better when you’re done

I’m reminded of a woman I met who’d lost over 200lbs. Now, 200lbs is like dropping an entire human being out of your space. I asked her what contributed to her success and she shared that she’d done a lot of emotional work prior to the weight loss. That EFT had helped her work on core inner issues that supported external results.

I’ve had several times in my life where I called in enormous transformation, only to see my currently life razed to the ground before a new reality became established. Each time, it revealed flaws in my foundation. Let me correct that, *sometimes* there were flaws that came to light.  Other times it was just that a new operating system was installed and all my old programs didn’t work any more.

(Now, if you’re going through a huge paradigm alteration, often the response to such growth can also feel “blah” or a weird sort of apathy. When you expand as Consciousness then all your old measures of success disappear. You no longer desire the material things you once thought were necessary. You lose that urge to compulsively fill empty needs. Satisfaction can seem boring. )

Messiness can look like a divorce, an illness, or big emotional reactions.

How you respond to this mess depends on whether you’re experiencing it as your body personality or as Consciousness. If you’re reacting as your body personality, you’re going to go through it kicking and screaming. I know, there were times in my past when I’d drive and scream at the top of my lungs, it was so painful.

If you’re responding as Consciousness, you might actually feel excited. You may be amused. You feel empowered and invigorated. You know that You, as Consciousness, are coming more into form. You are occupying your body space more fully.

You know you’re going through a life renovation or remodel. It’s possible to do this without getting divorced or sick. When you do this as Consciousness, you can create your loved one’s coming along for the ride.

I experienced this kind of remodel over a period from 2010-2013. My business was earning more than I’d ever had before, but my marriage was filled with conflict. Then my mother came down with Alzheimers and I left Seattle to go Washington DC for what I thought was a few months, to help her move. I ended up there for two years to help her die. My husband joined us after a year, and going through that ordeal brought us closer.

The relationship I have now is one I never imagined possible. We are more in love now than ever before. We have a prosperous life together. And my work has expanded to areas I’d never dreamed of.

You may be in the mess of your own Consciousness remodel. You can change your experience by shifting your awareness to viewing it as You as greater Consciousness.

As Consciousness you know the bigger picture. When you go through your growth experience as Consciousness, it actually is comforting to your body personality. As much as your analytical mind wants to control the show, it’s relieved that you as Consciousness are driving the bus.

Mystic Musings: How Can You Tell If You’re Going Through A Consciousness Shift?

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How Can You Tell If You Are Going Through A Consciousness Shift? ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb

We hear all about this Consciousness Shift that’s happening, but how can you tell if it’s happening to you?

People like Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie had very marked transformations. They each literally woke up one morning and each found their ego had dissolved.

And, you know, they’re famous people. They have best selling books. They’ve been on Oprah. So that must be what happens when you shift, right? No more pain, no more money worries, and you’re instantly enlightened.

That’s what happened to them. That’s what’s happened to some people. I talked to a woman in New England who’d had a similar experience, but lived a very quiet life afterwards.

It was a relief to connect with her. Because I was worried about turning into Byron Katie or Eckhart Tolle. I think it would be a pain in the ass to live with them. I can’t imagine staying married or having my kids around me, if I were questioning every thought or being constantly in the present moment.

Of course that’s the monkey mind ego talking. Because in reality, Byron Katie has a better relationship now with her adult children than when they were growing up. And has a loving relationship with her husband. Eckhart Tolle is also married (although I remember reading how he drove his wife crazy sorting out the recycling a piece at a time, when she just wanted to get it to the curb for pickup).

But the Consciousness Shift is different for everyone. It’s like being at a baseball game and the crowd does “the Wave”. People across the stadium start standing up, and it goes around the stands until it comes to you. Not everyone is standing up at once. And not everyone experiences it in the same way.

I’ve been evolving as Consciousness since 1974, consciously using techniques since 1981, and my language and experience has changed and expanded along the way. In 2006 I reached a tipping point, which propelled me into a new way of being.

Some people are finding themselves hyper sensitive, they’re feeling or sensing everyone around them. Some are having a hard time sleeping. Many feel uncomfortable and out of sorts with their old lives, and yet excited and impassioned about what seems to be awakening within.

A lawyer I know felt crazy because she wanted to quit her practice and be a Reiki Master.
A Christian who spent every Sunday in Church since childhood, left her community and discovered a deeper spirituality than she’d ever thought possible.

What happened to me is my old practice stopped working, my old belief system disintegrated. It was very disorienting, since I was very identified with my teachings. I was an energy expert, in techniques that have been around for thousands of years.

I’ve successfully “upgraded” those original techniques, and found new ways to navigate. I had to learn to bypass my intellect, and be improvisational, responding to whatever shows up in the moment.

In the past few years my empathy has gone through the roof. I sense family members who live 3,000 and 6,000 miles away. I know when someone has read an email I’ve sent. And that’s just with people who are still alive.

Ten years ago when I had a stint as a phone psychic, I developed clairvoyant techniques for talking with dead people. However what I experience now is kinesthetic, I’ll feel them waft through me. And visual, usually symbolic reminders that they’re around, although recently I’m actually detecting thought forms. Which might be more about time and space breaking down for me than actually connecting with the being in it’s deceased non-physical form.

The newest experience for me is noticing gridlines. Not vertical like in the movie the Matrix, but horizontal, and sparkly, superimposed over physical reality.

The other day I was having a challenging time, taking someone recently diagnosed with dementia to a support group. It was bringing up memories of doing the same thing for my mother, although this situation and this person is completely different. Experiences like this have been coming up recently and they’re an opportunity to be in present time, and release past energy.

When I was in the present moment, I would see these gridlines. When I sunk into my thoughts, they went away. Or, more accurately, I sunk into density and my ability to notice the gridlines went away. I’m choosing not to label or define it, I’m just noticing what is happening.

It’s a very subtle shift. And I suspect for everyone, their expansion into Consciousness on one hand is subtle but profound.

On the other hand, physical reality could be completely falling apart around you. That does tend to happen when we move to a new level. When you no longer match the density you’re in, reality reorganizes.

It’s less painful when you don’t resist the changes. It’s more graceful when you navigate it as Consciousness.

You don’t have to try to do anything to expand. It’s happening without any effort on your part. You just have to notice. And enjoy the ride.

 

Birthing The New You

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Birthing The New You ©2016 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

Last night was pretty phenomenally uncomfortable. I woke up feeling constricted with competition. It was such a surprise to me, because I don’t operate on that level any more. My work is so new, the focus is different, that it doesn’t compare to what anyone else is doing. It would be like a runner competing with a hang glider. Different sports, different areas.

I’m not certain whose reality I was experiencing, but I would dearly love them to know –

Playing in the realm of Consciousness, you realize there’s plenty for everyone. There’s space for everyone to succeed. There’s enough time, money, love.

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Newborn in Nepal – photo credit Krish Dulal

Even if you’re not feeling it right now, your inner Self knows it.This world may seem rigid and finite, an adventure in Density and Effort, but when you’re playing as Consciousness, you realize that it’s all malleable. Time expands (or contracts) depending on your focus. Money is infinitely available (and usually comes out of left field rather than from the direction you’re expecting it). You are enveloped in Love. You ARE Love. There is always enough.

What it feels like now, is that we’re going through a collective Quickening. We’re feeling our creation kick. Their foot may actually be stuck under our ribcage. It’s when your pregnancy goes from just being morning sickness and weight gain, to the awareness that there’s something alive growing within you. It’s exciting and a little terrifying.

For some who have felt this evolution longer, it may be actual Transition. The most intense phase of labor, the most painful part as the baby is moving out through your cervix to slide down your birth canal.

In my two pregnancies, which were both at home and without drugs, when labor started I thought, ‘I’ve changed my mind!’ Whoops – too late. The baby is coming. Your body knows what to do. Breathe and relax and push when you’re in Transition.

You are giving birth to your New Self. The Greater Aspect of You is coming into form. It is powerful, it is exciting, it is thrilling and, yeah, a bit scary.

You’ve been going through contractions as you hit your internal limitations, all the programming and patterns created to convince you that you’re the opposite of who You truly are.

The world has been reflecting this, as people are having meltdowns, people are losing their shit, archaic beliefs are rising up, people are collectively crying out, no longer tolerating the intolerable.

When you don’t resist what is breaking down, when you don’t hold on to what is disintegrating within your fingers, you can enjoy this process so much more.

What’s on the other side of this is glorious. It is a love more profound than you can imagine. It is a greater relationship (with your Self) than you could have thought possible. It is the life of your dreams.

You are birthing You, you are magnificent, and adorable. You are loved, loveable, and worthy of love. You are surrounded by support. Everyone who shows up is a midwife or a doula to your new experience.

Relax, breath, and see what happens!