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Mystic Musings: Slogging Through Other People’s Density
Slogging Through Other People’s Density ©2019 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC
I’ve had several nights this week where I’ve been awake for ages, feeling other realities waft through me. I’m able to discern they’re not mine, but I’m not fully able to pinpoint whose they are. But boy, some people are having a really difficult time!
Several people are crippled with anxiety. A couple folks are in the depths of despair. One gets me as they’re mired in resentment, and I can go there myself all too easily in the wee hours.
It’s almost always a loved one who’s emotional energy I tune into, they span 6,000 miles and several time zones. But I often forget about the most obvious one – my husband right beside me in bed.
A devout Buddhist, he has a practice of praying for people, so during his wakeful hours he’ll start thinking about different groups that are suffering. Which sounds oh so holy and lovely but for the empath next to him it’s pretty gruelling.
I’ll have no reference point or clue that he’s focusing on starving Sudanese, or someone who is ailing. But I’ll feel their emotional resonance.
It occurs to me that we’re all influenced by other people’s density, now more so than ever before. As we collectively go through the shift in Consciousness, our sensitivity is increasing. But our first reaction is to think it’s our own reality.
Certainly, feeling other people’s struggles colors our own experiences, but you don’t need to stay stuck in their stuff. It doesn’t help them to match their level of discomfort, and you can still have compassion while being detached.
Someone I know who is married to a psychic, created a technique for being able to sleep at night when his spouse is dealing with different vibrations. He uses an imaginary lead curtain (like the aprons they put on you at the dentist office when you’re having x-rays).
You can also imagine yours frequency to be a 1/2 step above the vibration you’re dealing with. It allows you to separate from the density without totally detaching.
If you’re visual, you can imagine your energy field to be a different color than theirs. If they’re a dark blue or grey, yours can be yellow or pink.
An ancient technique is to imagine a rose at the edge of your energy field, creating a defining line between your space and others’. I think of it like floats in a swimming pool that let you know where the deep end is.
Of course, at 2am I didn’t think about any of these suggestions, or I would have gotten a better night’s sleep!
Try these yourself and see how your reality changes!
Mystic Musings 10/4 How To Feel More Joyously Expansive Than You Ever Thought Possible
What Are Emotions? A 5D Perspective ©2018 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC
One of my clients was sharing about her Consciousness shift and it brought into perspective my multileveled awareness of emotions.
At a basic level, emotions are simply a body’s language to communicate to You, Consciousness. It fundamentally expresses itself the same way, and for the same reasons, as it did when it was an infant. Your body cries when it’s tired, hungry, uncomfortable, in pain, frightened, etc. That doesn’t mean you’re crying all the time as an adult, but it’s crying out in some way for your attention.
When we’re paying attention to our body, feeding it right, letting it sleep when it wants to, tending to it’s needs, it’s basically happy. But if we’re off in the future with great potential creations, our body feels abandoned, thinks we’re leaving permanently, it is sure we’re dying. When our attention is on the past, it is a fascinating exploration to Consciousness but the body feels mired in it’s immovability of regret, resentment, mourning, and loss.
That’s at the basic level. The next level is when you take into consideration everyone else’s emotions. As Consciousness we’re all naturally empathic, telepathic, kinesthetic, and/or clairvoyant. So we’ll tune into what others are feeling and think it’s ours. Or even if we can discern it’s someone else’s, it can be hard to detach from it. Other people’s emotions seem to magnify our own.
Old school solutions to these problems were to detach from our own feelings, discipline ourselves not to feel them or ignore them. Many religious practices included denying the body food or comfort as a way to become more spiritual. Which kind of misses the point of being here. What you find out when you die is that you were spirit all along, and your reason for incarnating was to experience being in a physical body.
Being present to the body by being in the present moment, is a more effective way to ‘be more spiritual’. When you’re in present time, that is, your attention is withdrawn from the past or the future, you’re able to fully occupy the body, and then it’s really happy. The heaviness of the past is gone, the uncertainty of the future has disappeared, it knows it’s alive and being taken care of.
We think we don’t like being in present time because it’s too limiting. Our mind, which is our GPS, is programmed to always be going somewhere (and checking past maps for how to get there). But as Consciousness, the present moment is infinitely expansive. True transformation is initiated in the Now.
What I’m finding with my own Consciousness shift, is that my old ways of being in the Now have me tuned into others, and a lot of the time I’m swimming through quite a lot of emotional frequencies. My old ways of detaching seem uncompassionate and incongruent with the increasing interconnectedness that is a result of our collective Evolution that is occurring.
When I play with my Consciousness techniques, everything reorganizes into a completely different experience. It’s like going from old style animation to CGI. I feel like I effortlessly refocus into being more fully embodied and yet extremely clear and alert (without having to spend hours ‘cleaning energy’, ‘getting unstuck’, ‘removing blocks’, etc.).
And it’s not about getting to 5D and staying there. As Consciousness we move between levels without judgment.
What about others in our hologram? What about all the emotions being flung about out there?
This morning I woke extremely early and was instantly aware of a lot of uncomfortable feelings. I felt a lot of grief and physical discomfort. My first thought was that it was me, it’s been a tough week, physically and emotionally. So I stewed in it for awhile, until I became aware that I was feeling others emotions. So I looked at my clock, to figure out time zones, since I have loved ones 3,000 miles away on either side of the globe from me. A little while later it occurred to me that it was actually the people in this apartment I’m in, which should have been obvious but at 3:25am I assumed they were asleep.
So then I used a Consciousness Technique for centering in the hologram, and discovered that all the feelings stopped being in my body and seemed to be in a ball in the center of the room. (This doesn’t really mean anything because as Consciousness there is no time or space, so locations like up, down, in, and out, don’t hold true anymore). And when I created a focal point on that ball, it initially seemed to be less intense. Which gave me the opportunity to start writing this post.
Halfway through, the other inhabitants needed my assistance, and I was able to respond with clarity, amusement, and even affection. When I came back to writing, I noticed the shift of focus yet again.
Now, it’s all a creation of Consciousness, and whatever you’re experiencing is your creation as Consciousness. Even if others are extras in your movie, they’re also expressions of Consciousness moving through your soundstage, so to speak.
I’m not spending time resisting other’s emotions, or trying to get them out of my space. Consciousness is the highest level of non-resistance, of being so open that negative or denser energies pass right through.
I’m also not trying to change, fix or improve others or the situation, unless out of curiosity something spontaneously occurs to me to play with.
It’s a completely different way of navigating reality, beyond our mind’s GPS which wants to take us deeper into the density because that’s all that it knows. And in so doing, to feel more authentic and expansive joy, passion, love, than you ever thought possible.
How To Handle The Mosh Pit of Life
©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC
It’s been an emotional roller coaster ride recently. With all the events around the world, no one has been spared, it seems. It’s hard to maintain equilibrium in the midst of it all.
My original training as a healer and spiritual counselor taught me to be detached from my clients. The intention was to stay out of sympathy with them, because sympathy can actually be disempowering. If you feel sorry for someone, it invalidates their capability as Spirit. When you acknowledge them as Spirit, it recognizes them as whole and capable of creating their reality.
However the other end of the pendulum presented was empathy. The problem with empathy is that you’re feeling their feelings. Which makes it really hard to be neutral.
I’m sure the original translation of the teachings meant to be compassion. That is, compassion in the Buddhist sense, which accepts and doesn’t resist suffering, but also wishes all beings peace and happiness.
When I shift from my everyday perspective, where I can get caught up in injustice and sorrow, to an expanded perspective as Consciousness, I truly understand compassion.
As Consciousness I view the world as my creation, not a school but a playground of experiences. I can appreciate both the creativity of myself as Consciousness, and also the other aspects of Consciousness, in their life stories in form. I recognize that even the most unconscious-seeming person is still Consciousness. I can have compassion for the pain and discomfort that comes from being in form, in a body, without awareness.
There are some very painful stories out there. There’s heartbreaking loss. And yet, as Consciousness, there is no loss. The dead are still with us, we just can’t see them. The house is gone, things are lost that are irreplaceable in form, but there is life beyond.
Consciousness is neutral about these things. Consciousness is also neutral about time. It may take years to recover from the trauma, to rebuild lives. To Consciousness, this entire lifetime is in the blink of an eye.
Before “waking up”, I was in tremendous pain for so many years. I was suicidally depressed some of the time. When I lifted out of that level of depression, I made choices that may have limited me to the outside world, but were intended not to tip me over, to keep me from going back into that pit of despair.
Our societal measurements of success are not the same as Consciousness.
You can’t dive into physical reality without getting muddy. If you try to avoid it, you’ve missed the point of being here.
I look at what is happening in the world and I want to end poverty and starvation. I want everyone to feel nurtured and loved. I want everyone to be spiritually enlightened. I want everyone to have their heart’s desire.
And when I shift my perspective as Consciousness, I see that what everyone is striving for, they already have. Freedom. We are free to experience the world in all of its aspects. We’re free to explore the depths and the heights. We are free to create expansion *and* contraction, increase and limitation.
What everyone is desiring, they already are. At their Essence, they are Consciousness.
When I sense all of us as Consciousness, as much as I’d like to say it’s like a symphony, it’s really more like being in the mosh pit of a heavy metal concert. In the rain.
When I sense everyone as Consciousness, I can see how everyone is actually enjoying themselves here, even folks who thought they had tickets to Vivaldi and found themselves in the crowd listening to Metallica.
How To Handle Internal Noise ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC
When I first started dating my husband, I could only hang out at his place for a limited amount of time. He lived in North Seattle and you could hear I-5 from his house.
I lived on Vashon Island, with less than 11,000 people. The city was just too noisy for me.
By the time we moved to Tacoma, I’d been back east caring for my mother and I thought that I’d become desensitized to city sounds.
What I hadn’t counted on was an increased empathic sensitivity. The neighborhood we moved to had a growing population and the energetic noise got to be too much.
It’s not just location, I notice the internet emanates a collective sound as well.
I believe we’re all evolving as Consciousness and thus experiencing heightened abilities. For some people it’s empathy, the ability to feel other people’s feelings. For some it’s telepathy or tuning into people’s thoughts. For some it’s clairvoyance, the ability to see on multiple levels. Precognition is the ability to know what’s about to happen. Clairaudience means heightened hearing. You may be able to perceive through touch, or smell, as well.
When you first start having heightened sensitivities, you think it’s you. I must be thinking these thoughts (until other people start to say them out loud). I must be feeling these feelings (even though there’s no reason, your not triggered or tired). I must just be making this up.
As you become familiar with your awarenesses, you can start to discern whether it *is* you, or outside of you. You realize that you’re always drained after staff meetings at work, because you’re feeling the tension of all the people in the room.
For me the inner noise is quite remarkable. It’s like listening to an arena full of people. You can’t quite make out the conversations but you can hear the collective sound.
When you combine that with heightened empathy, feeling loved ones’ feelings (regardless of what state or country they live in), it’s a cacophony of vibrations. It can be quite frustrating or overwhelming, like living in an apartment building with thin walls; you can’t make the neighbors turn their stereo down.
So, what can you do about it? There are several ways to handle the internal noise.
You can’t make your neighbors turn down their stereo, but you can turn down your own internal ‘hearing aid’. Imagine a dial for your sensitivity and turn it down a notch. For you this may not be a dial but a digital up or down button, press ‘down’ until the vibration subsides.
If it’s an individual’s communication (picking up on how your loved one is feeling) another technique is placing their energy in a window, to where they get the relief, answer, or solution they are seeking. You don’t have to be everyone’s personal healer!
Music not only drowns out external noise but can uplift your internal vibration as well. If you’re vibrating higher than the collective, their energy can pass through without you being affected by it.
Play with these this week, notice what works for you, and see what happens!